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Manage negative events. What should I do to make it work?

Manage negative events. What should I do to make it work?


This is a specific tool that I use personally. He is a worker, so take him to your service. We very often react emotionally to a particular situation, even overly so. And while we are in this state, we completely cease to control anything. I will not describe why this happens, but I hope you can understand it.


Manage negative events. What should I do to make it work?


But any event that has happened in our lives is neither good nor bad – they are all neutral - it all depends on your attitude to them. And all these events are just a consequence of our previous thoughts, decisions and actions. With our real feelings and thoughts, we shape our future, so any negative, at first glance, situation can always be turned to our advantage.


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Why is this so? After all, if your wallet was stolen, or you hit a car, or even broke your arm, then you think that these are definitely bad events. But this is not true, because only by the occurrence of time can you understand how and what turned out for us this situation.

Manage negative events. What should I do to make it work?

After all, it may turn out that your lost wallet will not be seen by punks in the store, will not follow you and will not attack. That is, the "negative" loss of your wallet literally saved your life. And thanks to the fracture, you may meet your true love, as she will be a nurse who will do your dressing.


What's the big deal? Yes, when we react vividly to positive events in our life – this is quite good, but when a strong reaction occurs to a negative, we create it in our life even more (link to your article), although, I repeat, it is not really bad – it is neutral!

But sometimes it is hard to remember this when you have something happened and we are again completely at the mercy of resentment, anger, jealousy and other negativity. In this situation, use this tool:

Manage negative events. What should I do to make it work?

Say to yourself, I allow myself to get angry (offended, angry), 1 hour (some time as you need to calm down, assign it to ourselves), if time has passed and emotions subsided, it may extend for any period of time.

What does this phrase do, it commands your brain not to switch off 100% and not to succumb to emotions all-powerful.

Accordingly, you can see the situation more broadly and finding an answer or solution to the question that has arisen will not keep you waiting, especially since this event is neutral for us, and there is no point in worrying about it yet.

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